Over the last 72 hours, several people have asked me to write about this topic so here goes!!!! Have you ever heard someone say......"You are so accomplished".....Like it's a problem!
Well honey...here yee..here yee....I will not apologize for being successful.
This dating game can be very tricky....but do not discount us good guys simply because we have accomplished a great deal in life. Don't you want to be with someone who has drive, determination, stable, and have a solid grasp on life? Those who are successful at a young age are not only masters at multi-tasking, but are usually the most passionate and committed you will ever meet. I said to someone last week that it is ok to allow someone to be ya come up. BUT, you must not abuse it and show appreciation.
If being surrounded by accomplished people makes you uncomfortable, then you may have a self-confidence issue. Look, there is nothing wrong with recognizing that you want more for your life. But the only way to fix that is to get you some good good role models and mentors. But why not create an empire with your potential partner? Nothing is more great than team success. Growing up is hard, and I can not fix all of your problems. BUT I can promise that you will never have to face another one alone. Stop thinking people are trying to buy you, take care of you, or be ya mommy. Maybe someone is just trying to help you grow because they care. I have learned that not everyone is ready to thrive.
Someone I care about greatly once said to me that they didn't feel like they could offer much to the relationship. Honey you have my attention and clearly you have something that I value. You must offer a great deal in order to keep me present, here and accounted for. One thing about accomplished people is that time is extremely valuable. If you are getting hours per day, trust me you offer a lot. More than you probably imagine. Ask the question..."What do I offer you" and you may be pleasantly surprised what you hear.
Now.....for all of yall peeps out there who see a nice guy who has it going on....then you go home and sit back and plot on how to bae them up so you can enjoy the fruits of their labor...hunty....get ready for the wrath. Be careful....don't be surprised when your world begins to crumble all around you simply because you took advantage of someone...and trust...they know it....they are just planning an explosive exit.
Now, there is nothing wrong with accepting gifts, compliments and just good company. Hell, allow someone to treat you well....you deserve it (most of yall). You may not be able to reciprocate it right now and most of the time that isn't what is desired. Usually a simple "thank you" will do. But the demonstrated effort will not only bring some serious cohesion to your future partnership but lay the foundation built on trust, SAFETY, and compassion.
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~Tyrell