When someone says they are committed, what do they mean? Do they really know?
Commitment is something that you should hold close to your heart. Not everyone deserves your commitment. But when you do, understand that it is a gift. When someone has committed to you, know that you are special and they made a choice to do so. When you commit to someone, understand that it is statement that means quite a bit. Here is a summary:
1. There is no more you and me. Almost everything is now us.
2. Understand that you both will have bad days. You must be committed to helping your partner work through it. Work to bring that smile back. Understand when they are easily frustrated that it isn't you but they need your help. Sometimes that is a simple smile, hug, "I love you", or just be present.
3. Every success is a win for you both. One of you gets promoted at work, pays off a credit card, or completes a goal. Be excited as if it was your own accomplishment, because it was.
4. People make mistakes, guess what, it just became yours so you need to work through them together. You must never give up, say it's not your problem, especially in public. If you can not do that, then you are not committed.
5. Remember you must always works to keep the love in the relationship and it must be at the forefront. The small things really count here. It shows your commitment to the unit and they are always on your mind. That the thought of them makes you smile. A hand written card, flowers, surprising them at work for lunch, ect..... Keep these coming. I can not stress enough how important this is.
Finally, the commitment must be visable from the sky. A bond so strong and so defined that it provides hope and inspiration to other. Yes, you will have people who say that your happiness makes them sick, or it's too much. They really want what you have and don't let that stop you. I have said it before that public proclamations of your commitment not only solidify your heart and its placement, but also heals others. When people see things that are happy and good, it internal heals whether they will admit it or not. Make milestones a big deal. Celebrate major accomplishments like you won a Grammy.
Today is a big day for Damian and I. We are moving in together and I can not tell you how incredibly proud of him I am, how happy and excited I am to wake up with him every morning and start this epic chapter of our life. I feel very loved and this unit is unbreakable. My commitment is strong, defined and I hope it is an example of what you all can have it you lead every day with good morals, ethics and work tireless to be a great person.