Last week, I had the absolute honor and pleasure to ask the love of my life to join me in marriage. I am still on cloud 9 as we both consider marriage something that is sacret and is the ultimate commitment to become a unit that is unbreakable. That evening I was so nervous but when it happened and I heard the word "yes", the rush of emotion was overwhelming as I would use the words excited, scared, moved, honored and committed the describe the package of feelings I experienced.
Yes, Damian and I are young but let me tell you something. I have NEVER been more secure with a decision in my life. You hear me?? Nothing. I am a Taurus and I have a pretty strong mind and this is for sure the best move for me, him and us. Over the last week, the outpouring of love and support from our friends, family and strangers has been nothing short of amazing. It gives me hope that love still is alive in us a people. But, let me be clear. There have also been some shady Katie's out here and all I can do is pray for you. Someone had the nerve to text me saying they are sick of seeing my happiness and love. Honey....I took my sharpest filet knife and removed that "friend" from my life faster than a speeding bullet. In my previous blog, I talked about protecting the unit. That's exactly what is happening. As we all grow older, develop as people, friends will come and go. Some people simply outgrown each other and that is ok. You just gotta know when to snip it. ✂️
Someone asked me this week, "what is your and Damian's secret". Here it is.....we both are constantly working on ourselves and us. No step is taken without the other person's interests considered. We talk about EVERYTHING. Even the things we think will be uncomfortable. We find the opportunity to talk about it. We listen. But most importantly, we stay committed to being open minded, kind to one another, understand that we may need to learn or change something, and that we may not always be right. I can tell you that I am usually the one that is wrong.
Another person said that "I hope I find what you all have". The unfortunate reality is most people won't. Hell I never thought I would be blessed with someone so perfect for me. Friday morning I woke up really early for some reason and I had this strong desire to pray. So I simply dropped to my knees and said "thank you" over and over again. I still have a lot to learn. How to be a better boyfriend, fiancé, husband and friend. But as long as I try every single day to show Damian I love him with all my heart, I know we will win this game called life.
Some shady queen said to me this weekend "are you sure Damian is as committed to you as you are to him, because you seem to post a lot about y'all then his does". I haven't laughed so hard in a while. Yes. I am absolutely sure of the fact that someone tried to measure our relationship and bond by counting social media posts, was absolutely hilarious and kinda sad at the same time. All I can tell you is when I get home, go to bed, wake up, go to work and at every moment of the day, my fiancé loves me and ensures I feel loved. That's ALL that matters. I love to write and made the choice to express myself with words.
Finally, as a gay black man, I have always told myself I wanted to be a model person. That includes son, brother, father and husband. My time is coming to prove that to myself and my family. I am so at peace y'all that I wake up smiling. Even with morning breath, I smile. I wish everyone could experience this feeling and some will. But you have got to learn to listen to yourself and the one you want to be with. One of my closest friends who is going through a divorce said to me yesterday that she would talk about some of her needs not being met and that her husband did nothing to even try to fix that. That made me so sad but I knew that wouldn't be us. Also she said that he just became very mean to her. His little sarcastic jokes began to feel real because they were constant. She is such a beautiful person and mother that I just hugged her and said you will find peace again
I say all this to say that:
1. We are getting married
2. The wedding will be fabulous
3. We are in love and want to share and spread love and good vibes to you all
4. You hatin'on the unit, you can view from the nosebleed section
5. People are lovers at heart. Except it, embrace it,grow it.
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