Who’s to decided when it’s a good time to start deciding? You know... when you find someone you love so much and you wish you could show it in more than a physical way. A hug doesn’t show it enough, not even a kiss. I’m talking about loving someone so much you wish there was a way that somehow your souls could wrap around each other. What a euphoric feeling it must be. But when you get that feeling no matter how long it’s been; One year, five years, 2 months, 3 weeks. When is it acceptable to start making plans together? When should we get married? Can we move in together already? How many kids do we want? What are your career goals? How much say do I have for my partner so that they don’t think I’m trying to control them? Those are the questions that a lot wonder and somehow the social constructs make us seem like you need to wait. What are we waiting for? Approval? Longevity? Definite commitment? Stop waiting and start feeling. Stop inviting others in to the relationship that’s between you and your lover. It’s definitely healthy to have outside sources to talk to. Friends, family, etc… but always remember no one is in your relationship but you two. If you’re waiting on the approval and acceptance of everyone else to begin your life, it’s no longer your life and trust you’ll be waiting. Be happy with your partner. If you can do nothing else together, just be happy. Here’s a list of things couples can be, tell me which one you feel sorry for:
The broke but happy couple The rich but happy couple The homeless but happy couple The unaccepted by everyone but happy couple The loved by all and happy couple The rich, has a big house, few cars, loved by all but unhappy couple
I’ll wait…. I’m not too sure about you but there’s only one couple up there that I feel a bit sorry for and it’s the one that has everything but also has nothing.
To answer the question: When is it acceptable to start making plans together? When you both decide it’s what will make you happy. If you’ve been dating for a month and decide, this is the one who I love and want to make it work with for the rest of my life, marry him/her. If your partner makes you feel inspired, bright, like you want to be more for them, gives you positivity and beyond, don’t wait for someone else to say “I approve.” If they’re stirring you in the right direction and are trying to help you follow your dreams, today is the day your partner has input on you. Why? Because you know they want to see you flourish. So why not let them “Upgrade you.” No shame! When you’re happy together, anything goes. All’s fair in love and happiness!