I thank the stars and sky that I’ve never been anywhere with my fiancé that we haven’t be accepted with open arms. Of course we feel no shame in who we are and who we are together, so yeah, everyone knows were in a relationship as soon as they see us. And I do believe it’s a wonderful thing to show off your partner. Reminds you what you have and it also makes your partner feel good.
I used to feel ashamed when I first started having boyfriends. Not that what I thought I was doing was wrong. I was just scared to be judged, to be honest. Lord knows that half the people out there don’t feel comfortable or just plain don’t want to see two men kissing on the street. Then add to the fact that its two black men kissing, you just don’t see things like that around! “How weird!” “Who’s the woman, who’s the man?” “ugh!” or “Don’t look.” Crazy thing that it’s not only adults but children too. Instead of these parents teaching their kids to just love everyone... young boys get in trouble and shamed because they want to play with a doll. Girls stay inside to help mom cook instead of helping dad with the yard. I could go on but I think you get the point and it all started at birth when you decided your daughter should have a pink blanket.
Your friends and family love you, they accepted you, your gay friends, your partner, etc. it’s all good! Right? …till you mention the idea of their child becoming gay, then it’s like, “no, he won’t be gay” or “Not my son!” then in a quick instance being gay wasn’t a problem for you but for your family. Or maybe the brainwashing that has been done to you hasn’t quite left completely.
At some point being called gay and a fag have become negative connotations and to some it still is. Whereas it would probably be a little weird if someone went around calling another person straight. But then again it’s not okay to say the “N” word but people still said it and still say it.
Imagine being called a name that was outside of your birth name. Blood pressure rises, fists clench, palms sweat, veins pulsate… oooh, I’d have half the mind to beat the shit out of you and make you eat the words. Excuse my language. I may look small and delicate but man, if I was angered like that and pushed to that limit, I’ll grow bigger than any ego. However, the way my peace works and the way my reality unfolds, I’m more likely to ignore you and wish you the best. Why? Because putting someone down ultimately means you’re unhappy. I will continue to be gay and black and I’ll continue to love my self and bask in my “unorthodox” relationship.
Instead of telling your kids not to look, why don’t you tell them how happy we are, or how Jesus wants them to love everyone. Don’t talk about our “sins” and leave yours unspoken. Remember, where it said for people to “hate gays” it also said a lot of other things like don’t cheat, lie, or steel. You outta start hating yourself, if anyone. Why don’t you teach them and yourself that you don’t have to like anyone, but you should RESPECT everyone.