When is it the right time to tell your partner that they may be gaining weight? The answer is all the time. Remember, this is just my perspective. Your man/woman may want you to lie to them about their body image. That’s something you might want to communicate with them at the beginning. However, I believe you should always be able to tell your partner the truth without them getting offended. Being someone that was a chunky kid all my life, to becoming a fit gym head I know my body and I can see when I gain just one pound. I know my fiancé thinks I’m beautiful no matter what but he knows that I want him to tell me the truth. I would be mad as hell if he kept telling me, “You didn’t gain weight,” “that shirt looks the same on you,” “You’re crazy, no you don’t!” and then years go by and I’m 60 pounds more than I used to be. Talk to your partner. Find out what their goals are, especially if they have or had body image issues. If you know what your partner expects from their self, then you can help lead them in the right direction and tell them to put the cupcake down! With loving words of course.
Leading them in the right direction might start out from leading by example. Shaping your body is the easiest most hardest thing in the world. I know, you thinking “how does that make any sense?” We know what we need to do to get our bodies in shape and if you don’t know, you have all the access in the world to find out. The hardest part is applying what you know. There’s so many thing you’d have to give up: junk food, laziness, early mornings, early nights, and my personal favorite alcohol. UGH what will I do if I don’t have these things? A fit body. Easier said than done, I know, but if you had someone to do it with like your Partner/best friend, you can’t say you wouldn’t be more motivated. Make it fun, create challenges, and remind yourselves that this is both self-growth and growth together.
Now to the side of Satan, the men and woman that ask their partner if they look fat in that certain outfit and get mad if your partner tells you the truth… you just can’t do that. Granted depending on the delivery of the truth, I’d understand. But in any other cases you need to let your ego rest. I’m sure your partner isn’t trying to hurt your feelings and if you think they are intentionally trying to hurt you, you’ve got bigger fish to fry. Only people willing to let you fail will lie to you. Be blessed when your lover tells you the truth even if the truth hurts. You know what that tells me? That my partner loves me, is honest with me, supports my goals and dreams, wants me to be better, trusts me, is comfortable with me. Something as simple as my fiancé agreeing that I’m fat does all of that for me. (P.S. I don’t think I’m horribly overweight but I’ve had trouble putting the cupcake down, if you know what I’m saying.)
None-the-less anything said with love is valuable. Nothing your partner says to help improve you should be taken in any way but with love. Take a step back, look at the bigger picture, ask yourself if what’s being said could be used to detour you or if can it be used as a leverage. If he’s the one for you, you’ll always get leverage. #oneunit